Women and Romance
Part 3: Idealist Women
By Dr. Lovegood
Idealist women tend to be very romantic. They love to give and receive tokens of affection,
such as an original poem, a hand carved box, or an item which reminds them of some shared
experience. Men often appreciate their compassion and empathy along with their belief in
others. When dating, they hope they'll get to know each other through deep conversation.
Rachel is an Idealist Counselor (INFJ). She seldom dated in high school since she was
studious and reserved, intimidating the guys. In college she dated more often. Rachel had
a boyfriend who pursued her. It was a passionate affair which quickly burned out when
she became convinced he didn't really love her. Later she met another man. Within a
few weeks, they were certain they were meant for each other. A year later, they married.
Bethany is an Idealist Teacher (ENFJ). She was fairly popular in high school and had
her pick of young men. Later, she continued to find it easy to find dates. Her real
problem was that she just couldn't find what she was looking for. She joked that she
was like Goldilocks. Bethany finally realized that she was holding onto an ideal that
no man could match. She began dating an old friend and discovered that a relationship
doesn't have to be perfect to be satisfying and fulfilling.
Arianna is an Idealist Champion (ENFP). She has always found that men are attracted
to her. She has had quite a few serious romances. As soon as she realizes that they are
both attracted to each other, Arianna has whole-heartedly thrown herself into the
relationship, later discovering that they aren't suited to each other at all. Then
she forced herself to slow down and take time to get to know the other person. She's
been dating her current boyfriend for 2 years. He has been a steadying influence on her.
Isabel is an Idealist Healer (INFP). She doesn't really enjoy playing the field.
That caused her too many heartaches. In college, her boyfriend was one of the most
sought after good-looking guys on campus. However, he was shallow, inconsiderate, and
straying. She stayed with him too long, hoping he would finally wake up to what he had
in her. Later she started dating a man with whom she could laugh. She admired his
intellectual capacity. He suggested that they live together. She said she'd live
with him after marriage. They are now engaged.
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