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Parenting and Temperament
Idealist Parents
By Dr. Lovegood

Idealist parents are a lot less common than Guardian and Artisan parents. The stereotypes of Idealist parents could often be one of the other temperaments - the artsy type, the flake, the nurturer, the believe-in-you-no-matter-what type, the emotional blackmailer and so on. An Idealist's desire for intuitive introspection can be incomprehensible to many Guardians, annoying to Artisans, and an invasion of privacy for Rationals.

Idealist parents are generally the best of all parents at finding and encouraging their children's unique abilities. While many parents are good at encouraging their children, Idealists are especially gifted in figuring out what to nurture and encourage. They are also the most likely to be able to 'read' their children's minds and have a good idea of what is going on inside each of their children. This can lead to trouble since they will at times 'read' incorrectly and then react based on what they think is happening. This can be avoided by talking to the child to confirm or modify an intuition before acting on it. A person fortunate enough to be brought up in a mature Idealist's home generally has a strong sense of who they really are, a validation of themselves and their dreams, and an emotional sensitivity to others.

Some of the potential problems for Idealist parents include excessive emotionalism and discipline which is loose or inconsistent. They may take their child's problems too personally and react too strongly, perhaps trying to solve their child's problems for them. Discipline is a tough issue for Idealists because they want to treat each child individually. They can have a hard time knowing if a particular excuse is valid and are likely to let their children get away with quite a bit since they want to avoid being harsh.

Here are some tips on how to communicate effectively with your Idealist parent. Avoid values conflicts. Try to fit what you are wanting or needing in terms of your parent's values. If you fight with them on their values, you'll lose the battle and the war. Remember, they have had a lot more time than you have to develop their beliefs. They have good reasons for their values (maybe some bad ones too). Find and respect those reasons.

The thing that makes an Idealist parent the happiest is when their children open up and talk to them about their most important beliefs, ideas, dreams, values, etc. Sharing intimately with your parent is the easiest way to communicate effectively with them. You can then ask for almost anything and get it, especially if you can show how what you are asking for will cause you to develop as a person.

 

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